Lily Allen's comment that kids "ruined" career highlights a challenge many face


Singer Lily Allen is garnering attention for comments she made on the challenges of balancing a career with motherhood.

“I never really have a strategy when it comes to career, but yes, my children ruined my career,” Allen said, laughing, on the Radio Times podcast Tuesday. “I mean, I love them and they complete me, but in terms of pop stardom, totally ruined it.”

Allen, 38, who shares two daughters with ex-husband Sam Cooper, said she chose to step back from her career to focus on raising her kids.

“It really annoys me when people say you can have it all because, quite frankly, you can’t,” the “Smile” singer said. “Some people choose their career over their children and that’s their prerogative.”

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Lily Allen at Milan Fashion Week on Sept. 24, 2023 in Milan, Italy.

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It’s a dilemma many women in the U.S. are all too familiar with.

“The concept that we can do it all, I think many of us have realized is not a realistic concept,” Holly Wilbanks, the founder of the Wilbanks Consulting Group, recently told CBS News Pittsburgh. “Instead, what women today are trying to do is figure out what’s important to them, what they value, and how they can structure their focus and their time around those things — and quite frankly, for a lot of women, that means making choices.”

And those choices look different for everyone.

“Nowadays, being successful means being so many different things to so many different women. It’s very subjective,” Wilbanks says. “(Some) women think climbing the ladder is success, other women feel caregiving for their children or a sick loved one is this definition of success. So quite frankly, it’s all over the spectrum.” 

For many parents, of course, working isn’t a choice but a necessity. And the challenge of handling both became even more apparent during the COVID-19 pandemic, where mothers in particular were put in an impossible situation.

“They’re doing their own job, their child care worker’s job, and their children’s teacher’s jobs,” Professor Joan C. Williams, founding director of the Center for WorkLife Law at the University of California’s Hastings College of Law, told CBS “Sunday Morning” in 2020. 

And while plenty of fathers struggled during COVID too, a study at the time showed women were almost three times more likely than men not to be working due to child care demands because of the pandemic.

Wilbanks says it boils down to support.

“Women are in the workplace now. And it’s really about, if they’re choosing to be in the workplace, how do we support them there? If they’re choosing to be at home, how do we support them there?” she says.



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